This morning I had a blast from the past...Again. Let me fill you in on the details. I have a ex best friend that I have known for more than 6 years. And the reason I say ex, is because after so many time of the same scenerio, I unfortunately realized she was not best friend material.
This is the type of girl that will do anything for you. She would be by my side no matter what, in any situation...until...she started seeing a new guy. And there have been alot of new guys in six years. It's like they took over her ability to do or say anything on her own. This girl wants to please her new guy in any and every way. Unfortunately, in the process she throws all family and friends to the side to make this happen.
It could be from the guy being a jerk to her, not likeing one of us, wanting her all to their self, etc. She puts up with it, not having any respect or well being for her kids and expects us to stay off in the distance. In the end when he leaves or she finally wakes up...To her it's expected we still be her friend. To forgive her and understand that we are the most important in her life? This has happened to me several times and every time I forgive and move on because that's what friends do right? WRONG this time things went way to far and I moved on.
Now dont get me wrong, when she is single, she is a great friend, but this last guy is a jerk. They fought so much that it became a day to day ordeal. I moved in with them for a short period to reevaluate my life and he was horrible. She began blameing things she had or hadnt done on me, just to keep him from yelling at her. Well then he began hating me and talking bad about me. I didnt know that she had done this til the day he asked for the money on electric. I gave it to him no problem and later there was a note ..YES A NOTE on my door stating he did not want rent two weeks later, but instead for me to move.
Instead of her standing up and telling him the truth on her lies, she pretended it was all me and let this happen to what she proclaimed as her true life friend. Well I left, but this time I let her know I would not be there to pick up her pieces. It ended in a huge fight very close to physical and almost 4 weeks to the day I have not spoken with her.
Guess who texted? Trying to be friendly saying her kids missed mine, asking about work, etc. I respectfully answer with yes or no answers and left it at that. I can tell by the texts she was trying to get her rock back. I know that sounds funny, but we were each others shoulder to cry on in life, love and everything in between.
I miss her dearly and want to catch her up on how well my life is, but do I dare fall back into the craziness of her life dramas? We had the strongest grip in each others lives, but aside from all this, I also heard that she was talking trash and a friend of both of ours showed me private messages between them and the way she was bad mouthing me. Heat of the moment from the fallout OR is that how she trully feels? I may never know.
Now granted I have had moments where I was not the best a friend should be, but no where near what we have had done to us by her. I wont go into more details, but this blog is just one example. Multiply by six years, I could write a book on just my relationship with her. HMMM??? Yeah I dont think that is any where in the future. Until later...
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